Boundaries

Being Aware Of Your Weak Boundaries Can Turn Off The People You Know

Being aware of your weak boundaries can turn off the people you know

by Kaneesha

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We have talked about internal boundaries and why grounding is important. When you are grounded, you become more aware of your surroundings and how you treat yourself internally. 

So, do you know if you have weak boundaries? 

Here are some signs of weak boundaries: 

  • Saying Yes, when you want to say No 
  • Feeling selfish for taking ‘me time’ 
  • Not speaking up when you are treated unfairly 
  • Pleasing others at your own expense 
  • Someone crossing physical boundaries without your consent 
  • Feeling burned out 
  • Body is exhausted 
  • Annoyed by the littlest thing

Why is having boundaries important? 

 

Good question! When you have unsteady boundaries, you may tend to lose yourself in the process. You begin to live for other people’s expectations of you and not YOU living the life you want for yourself. Being talked down, touching you without your permission, and pleasing others is not a satisfying life honestly. 

When you begin to re-evaluate your relationship with people, people can sense a shift. They may try to bring you back into their own way of control just to satisfy them and this is NOT normal. Common as heck, but not normal and healthy for you. The person could be a bit of an energy vampire (which I will talk about in more details in the next blog) The lowdown of an energy vampire is to take energy away from you. So they can take away how you feel, take away how you should respond to a situation, only want to talk about themselves and not be there for you when you need their help. Sucky person overall. 

It is important to connect with yourself because when you begin to understand the inner you (your soul self) , you begin to live the life you want. Things that may have bothered you before, may not bother you as much. If you have a physical sensation which has been irritating  you for a long time and you begin to focus on yourself, the physical sensation that has been a pain in the butt may get less or go away. 

So, look at your relationships with your friends, family, children, pets, spouse, even co-workers and ask yourself, “Am I speaking up for myself? Is this what I really want? Do I feel respected by this person?” If the answer is no, maybe it is time to re-evaluate your boundaries in your life. 

Having boundaries does not mean you are being difficult. It means you are done taking crap from other people and want to be respected. Nothing wrong with that right? 

Let me know on Instagram how you are going to create boundaries in your life. Sharing is awesome when people can relate to one another.

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Lacking in Internal Boundaries Department?

Lacking in Internal Boundaries Department?

by Kaneesha

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The hot word ‘boundaries’ is about external boundaries, dealing with people. What is not talked about enough, which it should, is internal boundaries. Internal boundaries are about limits within you. 

What do I mean by limits within you? 

Well, people like to talk about boundaries with people in your life, like your friends, family, kids, pets, strangers. However, we, as individuals, also need limits with ourselves. Our limits could be working from home, social media overload, eating, screen time, whatever limits you have within yourself. 

Sometimes we go a bit overboard and feel tired of ourselves because we pushed our limits. Pushing our limits can shake up our grounding foundation. We can feel exhausted, annoyed as hell, resentful towards ourselves, just a bag of BS that we do not need in our life. 

Internal boundaries are in your control 

You can set your own limit. For instance, when you are going grocery shopping, what is your limit? It could be items you get from your list, how much time you want to spend in the store, limit money, self-check out, or not. Whatever your limit is. Usually, when I go to the grocery store, I look at my shopping list, mentally think where the items are, and go there, get the items, check out and leave. I do not like shopping at all, however, when I do, I come up with a plan. That is my own internal boundaries when it comes to shopping. 

Internal boundaries are also about self-nurturing 

Self-nurturing is a continuous process, so are internal boundaries. As life goes on and evolves, your boundaries may change as well. And you have permission to do so. Give yourself a little bit of credit here! 

Internal boundaries are important for you to protect your peace. To keep yourself in the present moment and to live the life you want. You totally have a choice as to how to respond to people and how to limit yourself with things in your life. 

Internal boundaries are important to protect your mind, body, and soul. 

Let me know on Instagram way(s) you are utilizing your internal boundaries. I would love to hear from you.

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