learning to be your own healer can guide you to recognize yourself again

by Kaneesha

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In the beginning of my self nurturing journey, I sought out other people’s opinions on what I should do for myself. I thought they knew what was best for me. This is a habit I have formed because it is how I grew up; looking for other people’s approval. 

As I have gone through this journey, which is a lifetime, I have realized I know more about myself than I realize. I think we seek people’s approval to fit in and sometimes the ‘cool’ kids are not so cool after all.  When you have to seek someone else’s approval in life, you are not living for yourself, you are living for others who will not be satisfied. 

Over the years, I have learned what I needed for me. Trial and error. I am the type of person who likes to listen to other people’s opinions about whatever topic, but at the end of the day, it is my choice. Do you believe that? Do you believe you can choose whether to listen to someone or not? Do you believe you know what is best for you? 

If you believe you know what is best for you in your nurturing journey, then why haven’t you followed through? 

 

Now I am not attacking you whatsoever. I am pointing something out that maybe you have not thought about. When you are seeking outside yourself for answers, you are seeking other people’s experience in their life. Their life experience is not the same as yours. It is totally fine to listen to others and gain wisdom. I believe it is awesome to listen to others and their trial and error in their life. However, their story and your story are not the same which means there will be different outcomes in life. 

You have control over your choices in your life. Yes, there are unfair obstacles in the way, however, you can make decisions in your life. Remember when you were a kid and something happened that you could not stop? Well you are an adult now and you have more choices now then when you were a child. Recognize when someone is trying to get you to do what they want you to do and not what you want to do. 

Since you have control over what you want to internalize in your life, you also have control of your own self nurturing journey.

 

What I mean is, you have choices you can make now then when you could not in the past. So, let’s say you wanted to go to therapy but could not due to family saying you do not need therapy, well now you are an adult and you can do whatever you want. Go to therapy. Why not? If you believe it will benefit you in your self nurturing journey, then go for it. 

You have more control and power than you realize. You have ways of continuing your self nurturing journey and when you do, you will feel connected to yourself. Believe in yourself. Believe you can make changes in your life. I am rooting for you. 

Let me know on Instagram if you believe you have control over your choices through your self nurturing journey. Maybe your story can help others take the first mini step into beginning their journey. 

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